Some say the tongue is the most powerful muscle…
Sticks and stones
Words can hurt. The tongue is sooooo strong.
Why is it that I can’t remember the password I created last week and I can’t forget the words said to me on the playground when I was a child? Our words can hurt or heal. And we have to be mindful of that.
I doubt I’m the only one whose brain is filled with random statements from various people over the years. People who let their tongue run wild over my feelings. And when those thoughts find their way to the surface, I feel the old pain all over again.
I only wish I could order old positive phrases spoken to me to replay as easily.
The Tongue as Swordplay
Some people use their mouth like a weapon, and that is where we start today. Prof. 12:18 begins, “There is one who speaks like the piercings of a sword…” Wow. I know I can have a sharp tongue at times, but to have words that pierce like a sword?!
Swords can create mortal wounds. Words can create a sentence that leaves a lasting mark on a person for decades. It’s up to us to be aware of this and bridle our tongue in moments of anger
If necessary, be honest like I had to when suddenly confronted in public by the man who was in the midst of using his tongue to hurt my family. Tell them the truth – “I’m sorry, but I have a sharp tongue, and I’m not prayed-up enough to have this conversation with you right now. I don’t want to say something I’ll regret later.”
The Tongue as Good Medicine
The good news is that our verse continues, “…BUT the tongue of the wise promotes health.” The direct opposite of sword results!
How? What kind of words can heal instead of destroy?
- Speak truth in gentle tones
- Kindness (revisit that here)
- Validation of another’s feelings
- Notice the behind-the-scenes worker’s efforts
- ”Thank you.”
- Sincere compliments
So many ways for your tongue to help and heal. This should always be our goal!